Fake Fear

2018-10-25T18:35:30+00:00By |Uncategorized|


It is said that we are born with only 2 true fears as infants:

-the fear of loud noises

-the fear of falling 

All other fears are manifested in our own own minds as we age and go through the experience of life. 

Just like YOU, I have been accumulating plenty of fears throughout my time that sometimes crush my dreams and keep me from holding on to my visions

-the fear of looking stupid

-the fear of getting hurt

-the fear of not saying the right things

But all of our “fake fears” can be handled and managed with a proper mindset.

A mindset that accepts the fear, and says “test me” instead of “why me?”

A mindset that determines whether the “fear” is life-threatening or not.

And a mindset that, once it figures out that YOUR life is not in danger,  will stand and fight, win or lose, to build the courage and the durability WE ALL NEED.

A long time ago, I decided to face a fear that most of society would consider foolish or painful…Muay Thai fighting.

When I was a kid I couldn’t stand up to the bullies, because of fear. But when Muay Thai found me, I knew it was going to help me become stronger than life. So I went head-to-head with my fears and haven’t looked back since. Sometimes winning and sometimes falling flat on my face.

What fears do YOU need to face right now…fears that will sometimes break you down but also build you up?

Since I’ve retired from professional fighting in 2011, I have been searching for the next fear to face. Not because I like pain but because I want to keep getting stronger to help others.

I recently found my toughest fear yet. Public speaking.

Some would say they fear standing in front of a crowd of people as they speak scarier than facing death.

Essentially, most people would rather be in the coffin than give the eulogy.

That was my truth for a long time…. ever since junior year of high school, when I was too scared to show up to speech class and cut the entire semester.

But with the proper mindset I have been walking into high schools and middle schools as a hired youth motivational speaker to spread the CHAMP UP message.

Just yesterday, I walked into the High School of Health Professions in New York City and faced all my wildest fears:

-the fear of looking stupid

-the fear of getting hurt

-the fear of not saying the right things

But for a different reason. Not because it will make me stronger,because it just might make someone else stronger. 

Sharing and listening to the 9th graders tell stories very similar to mine (or YOURS), is some of the most gratifying work I’ve done in my life.

Kids bearing their hearts and souls in front of their peers took plenty of courage.

One kid in particular, who is dealing with a major speech impediment, CHAMPED UP and grabbed the mic to let the audience know that he is not scared.

Not scared to speak up, though he deals with major stuttering and stammering.

I told him before I Ieft, “sharing your story is the beginning of healing”, as it was clear that more than a handful kids are in pain.

How can YOU start to share to start healing?

I understand fear, as it has gripped me throughout my life and still does, but I‘ve learned plenty about facing the ones that matter.

There is always something new that YOU can learn about yourself.

Know that sometimes you will look stupid. Or that you might get hurt and that you might not say the right things.

Until YOU can face the ones that really matter and change someone else’s life, you might be doing an injustice to yourself and the world around YOU.

There are 2 thoughts that we can keep top of mind to battle our innate fears:

Fall 7 times, stand up 8

All it takes is heart

With that in mind, I challenge YOU today to:

-Get in the fight…of life

-Face your fears

-and CHAMP UP!

Chris Romulo AKA CROM
We All Got The Fight In Us… CHAMP UP!



About the Author:

Chris Romulo is a former professional Muay Thai champion, coach, speaker and owner of CROM Physical Culture in Rockaway Beach, Queens. Chris believes we all have a champion in us fighting to win at life.

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