I do my best to chase the illusion of perfection in everything I do.

My father wasn’t the type of person to sit me down and give me words of advice on what I should do with my life.

He wasn’t the type of person that showed me what I should be doing by his own actions either.

I went on with life knowing deep down inside that I would break the cycle of non-existent fatherly guidance in my family.

When I had my 1st son (1998), I swore to be the man that I knew I was. To raise my son with love, integrity and real-world guidance.

I have made MISTAKES.

I have said the WRONG THINGS.

I am not the PERFECT PARENT.

I am IN THE GAME.

My dad rode the bench…and still does.

This is NOT “woe is me” story. This might be a rant. But regardless, I hope it provides value in some way to you.

If you are a dad or soon to be a dad, GET IN THE GAME.

You will make MISTAKES.

You will say the WRONG THINGS.

You are a PARENT…and a HUMAN.

BE there and say things that you think might help your kid FEEL, THINK AND DO RIGHT.

My 1st born and I are going through what my mom and I went through when I was a knucklehead kid.

Unfortunately, my mom didn’t have any help but she did the best she could.

I am blessed to have a community of people to help steer my son in the right direction. I do my best to show, do and tell him what I think will help his journey.

I don’t know what is being absorbed or not but I will NOT give up.

For ALL you dads or moms out there struggling, you know as well as I do, there is NO formula to raising kids…but there are a few things that are MUSTS.

TAKE the shots.

LOOK for teammates.

ANALYZE advice.

STAY the course.

But most of all…GET IN THE GAME!

For those of you that don’t have kids, these “MUSTS” can also directly apply to anything that you are looking for in life!